Is this a miracle? No it is not; in spite of what Ms. Lagondino told Oprah. Is this proof that evolution is true; that humans have evolved to the point where men are able to become pregnant? No. This is a woman - Tracy Lagondino - who had a sex change operation to legally, although not really, become a man - Thomas Beatie. The purpose of this post is not the regurgitation of the previous one; which you may read here. The purpose of this post is...
- To follow up on the one post which has driven a horde of traffic to this blog. The Oxgoad has been hit 25-30 times a day by people who have searched the Internet using the words "Tracy Lagondino", "Thomas Beatie", "pregnant man", etc. (Yes, 25-30 extra hits per day is a "horde" of traffic for this blog.)
- To respond to the sole comment that last week's article engendered
wow, i always forget that there are still people as close minded and cruel as you out there. why does it make you so upset that these people have found something that makes them happy? i understand not agreeing with it, but it making you upset seems really weird. i hope that someday someone close to you, like your child or another family member goes through something like a sex change so you can have some compassion and understanding towards people who are different than you. what is sad and pathetic to me is how angry you are over someone elses happiness simply because you choose not to understand it. how childish.
"Wow" indeed! A woman has her breasts surgically removed, received hormone therapy to look and sound masculine, married another woman, and then, thanks to IVF, became impregnated, and I am the weird one.
I understand her charge of being "close-minded". I believe Ms. Lagondino's gender confusion, Lesbian "marriage", and the birth of an innocent child into such confusion is tragic. Thus, my mind is closed. I understand and am comfortable with that criticism, and if being open-minded means viewing as acceptable or normal trans-gendered marriages and pregnancies; then I am closed-minded.
Except I'm not. Being open-minded does not mean universal, unilateral acceptance of everything under the sun. I am open to the viewpoints of others. I am willing to learn and be intellectually and culturally stretched. This story is stretching it way too far, however, and it is simply wrong.
What I do not understand is the accusation of being cruel, unless skylana means that, since I find this whole affair "a sad and pathetic commentary on our culture" I am therefore a cruel human being. She used that identical phrase - "sad and pathetic" in her comment as she referred to me as angry and childish. I was not then, nor am I now, angry about this story. I am saddened by it all, and I do find it pathetic. I do not believe that constitutes cruelty, but wishing that my children will grow up to have a sex change operation...well now, that's kinda cruel.
I also understand her suggestion that I am upset at the happiness of others. Please understand, I like happiness. I am all for happiness; my own, as well as the happiness of others, but I do not believe that gender confusion leads to happiness. I would say the same thing about promiscuity, drunkenness, or any number of behaviors in which many people futilely engage as they grasp for an unattainable happiness. Just because it feels good (at the moment) doesn't mean you should do it, and it most certainly does not guarantee your happiness.
That is why I said "unattainable happiness". The pursuit of happiness is not just an inalienable right or a Will Smith movie. The pursuit of happiness is a human trait. It is a natural, God-given desire to pursue happiness, but there is only one avenue that leads to ultimate happiness. The person who will be happy will not walk in the counsel of the wicked, nor stand in the way of sinners, nor sit in the seat of scoffers; but his delight will be in the law of the Lord. The person who pursues happiness will achieve it if he delights himself in the Lord. Do so and the Lord will give you the desires of your heart, and one may be assured that those desires will be consistent with God's word.
So you want to be happy? Get it right on the inside. Down deep inside remove the trash, the shame, the fear, the clutter, the guilt. Repent of it. Repent of the thought that maybe you can make your life better than God can. The key to real happiness in your life and my life is connecting in a delighted way to God's Word.
Finally, as to the indictment that I am not being compassionate because I can not rejoice in this woman's gender confusion and pregnancy, let me just say that the truth - God's truth - is compassionate no matter how out of sync that truth may be with cultural consensus. Albert Mohler has clearly written an article - The Compassion of Truth: Homosexuality in Biblical Perspective - on this very subject.
I hold no ill will towards Tracy Lagondino, her expectant child, or her partner Nancy Roberts; however, I will not celebrate their sin. I am not referring to the child as their sin; the child is the only innocent person in this ordeal. The sin to which I am referring is their homosexuality.
Here are a few additional helpful links on this topic:
- Jeff Robinson from the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood - Pronouns and Surgery Do Not Produce a Man
And several blog posts from Al Mohler: